I was thinking about a friend of mine. His name was Nim. Nim and I used to have fun together. We would have the best "da da" conversations: I'm not talking high art here, I'm talking literally we would say "da da" to each other. These were most fun in van where we could be as loud as we liked. Sometimes we'd go down to the market on the weekends. We'd roll up and down the market and I'd watch Nim smell the coffee. Sometimes we'd stop in at a stall and Nim would have a bit of a back massage. I'd watch his face screw up with the tension then suddenly release as the knot uncoiled. Then we'd go over to the grass and unhindered by OH&S I'd lift him out of his wheelchair and we'd lay around on the grass looking at the sky through the trees, playing our strange version of arm wrestles.
Nim died seven years ago. He taught me many things, but one of the things he taught me was about death; that when somebody dies part of what we miss is the person, and another part we miss is part of ourselves, who we were when we were with that person, because we can never be the same person again.
I can close my eyes and see Nim's face and the crazy way his red hair rolled in furrows on his head particularly when he'd just had a number 2. I can close my eyes and almost feel our "da da" times together.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Friendship
Services in Australia all tend to subscribe to the philosophy of inclusion. An implied part of inclusion is friendship and other sorts of social networks. But how has concepts of friendship been applied to people with PIMD? What does friendship mean when thinking about people with PIMD: what does it mean to the person with a disability, what does it mean to the friend, and what does it mean for support services?
My best friend, Keith McVilly (who also happened to have looked at friendships of people with mild-moderate ID for his PhD) and I discussed this today. I think it is worthwhile to start with my own bias. I have friends who have PIMD. I have also battled with services to allow me to exercise my friendships, experiencing the red tape and the reluctance of some services to go into “risky territory”. I think we have a long way to go to understand how inclusion is to occur for people with PIMD in environments that are risk aversive.
Here are some thoughts that came from Keith and me. Mainstream friendship is usually conceptualised as a relationship of mutual respect with equality and reciprocity. Within this relationship each person takes on different roles at different times. What people get out of friendship is difficult to encapsulate; perhaps it is a sort of spiritual connectedness. But what happens for a person with PIMD whose ability to take on different roles in the relationship is severely compromised? Is this still a friendship if they can never initiate the contact with the “friend”. One way of looking at friendship with people with PIMD is to look at it from the view of the friend and in this case friendship seems to comprise of the following thoughts: (1) “I think this person likes being with me”, (2) “I get something out of being with this person”, and (3) “I see this person as a valuable human being”. This way of viewing a friendship is not without its problems as the person with the disability cannot directly confirm or negate the statements. In some ways it is like the dyad where one person thinks the other person is their friend, but the other person doesn’t like them at all.
I certainly have no easy answers when it comes to friendship with people with PIMD. However, I do know that spouting the importance of inclusion without even thinking of what the relationships might mean to both potential partners, and not considering the, shall I say, logistics of relationships, is doing people a disservice. For example, what does an organisation do if somebody wants to take a service user with PIMD out for dinner (do they ask the friend to get a police check, ensure that a staff member accompanies the person, say it is too risky and hope the friend goes away and doesn’t stir the pot, or do they just let the person take the house van, give the person their medication, and sweep them up with wine and spaghetti). What would different friendships look like if the person had particular care needs such as PEG feeds, needs to get out of their chair, and assistance in the bathroom? Would it mean that past staff members who are familiar with the attendant care needs would be people who would best able to spend time with the person? Or must friends only be people who don’t have disabilities, and haven’t worked with the person... Furthermore are we putting people at risk by letting them be with people who are not under the jurisdiction of our organisational policies and practices?
Clearly there are many things that need to be thought about if we are to really work towards (not just talk about) the inclusion of people with PIMD.
ps: for some research looking at friendship in the community after living in an institution, see: Bigby, C. (2008). Known well by no-one: Trends in the informal social networks of middle-aged and older people with intellectual disability five years after moving to the community. Journal of Intellectual & Developmental Disability, 32, 148-157.
My best friend, Keith McVilly (who also happened to have looked at friendships of people with mild-moderate ID for his PhD) and I discussed this today. I think it is worthwhile to start with my own bias. I have friends who have PIMD. I have also battled with services to allow me to exercise my friendships, experiencing the red tape and the reluctance of some services to go into “risky territory”. I think we have a long way to go to understand how inclusion is to occur for people with PIMD in environments that are risk aversive.
Here are some thoughts that came from Keith and me. Mainstream friendship is usually conceptualised as a relationship of mutual respect with equality and reciprocity. Within this relationship each person takes on different roles at different times. What people get out of friendship is difficult to encapsulate; perhaps it is a sort of spiritual connectedness. But what happens for a person with PIMD whose ability to take on different roles in the relationship is severely compromised? Is this still a friendship if they can never initiate the contact with the “friend”. One way of looking at friendship with people with PIMD is to look at it from the view of the friend and in this case friendship seems to comprise of the following thoughts: (1) “I think this person likes being with me”, (2) “I get something out of being with this person”, and (3) “I see this person as a valuable human being”. This way of viewing a friendship is not without its problems as the person with the disability cannot directly confirm or negate the statements. In some ways it is like the dyad where one person thinks the other person is their friend, but the other person doesn’t like them at all.
I certainly have no easy answers when it comes to friendship with people with PIMD. However, I do know that spouting the importance of inclusion without even thinking of what the relationships might mean to both potential partners, and not considering the, shall I say, logistics of relationships, is doing people a disservice. For example, what does an organisation do if somebody wants to take a service user with PIMD out for dinner (do they ask the friend to get a police check, ensure that a staff member accompanies the person, say it is too risky and hope the friend goes away and doesn’t stir the pot, or do they just let the person take the house van, give the person their medication, and sweep them up with wine and spaghetti). What would different friendships look like if the person had particular care needs such as PEG feeds, needs to get out of their chair, and assistance in the bathroom? Would it mean that past staff members who are familiar with the attendant care needs would be people who would best able to spend time with the person? Or must friends only be people who don’t have disabilities, and haven’t worked with the person... Furthermore are we putting people at risk by letting them be with people who are not under the jurisdiction of our organisational policies and practices?
Clearly there are many things that need to be thought about if we are to really work towards (not just talk about) the inclusion of people with PIMD.
ps: for some research looking at friendship in the community after living in an institution, see: Bigby, C. (2008). Known well by no-one: Trends in the informal social networks of middle-aged and older people with intellectual disability five years after moving to the community. Journal of Intellectual & Developmental Disability, 32, 148-157.
Sunday, July 13, 2008
Non-Instructed Advocacy: Advocacy for People with PIMD
In Australia we often hear about self-advocacy in the context of people with disabilities standing up for their rights, and at times having support to ensure their voices are heard, but what happens when somebody does not have a voice? Advocacy systems often rely on an individual saying "I want an advocate to stand beside me on this issue". This directive may not be able to be made by people with PIMD. Sometimes it may be difficult to know even what a person's perspective on an issue is. Does this mean they do not "qualify" for advocacy?
In the UK, becoming increasingly popular is the concept of "non-instructed advocacy". The Oxfordshire Advocacy Development Group state that "Non-instructed advocacy is a form of advocacy that sets out to support those people who are not able to instruct an advocate or to say what they want for reasons of communication difficulties, lack of comprehension, severe learning disability or dementia" http://www.oadg.org.uk/noninstructed.asp. Rather than a person saying what they want, non-instructed advocacy relies on observation and knowing the person rather than being told. This presents a challenge to common forms of advocacy. It requires really getting to know a person over time, and then knowing how to represent the person without bringing in your own views or agenda, without clear confirmation from the person being represented.
Non-instructed advocacy is not simple, and controversy is attached to it. Lawton (2006) states that "some people argue that this cannot be true advocacy as the person has not asked for this support and this might be one reason for people with high support needs missing out" (p.14). People with PIMD are missing out on advocacy. The voice a person saying "I want to make a complaint" is listened to much more readily than somebody who's body language is saying "I am not happy with this". Are people with PIMD not to be listened to because they don't have a voice?
What is happening around Australia for people with PIMD in the area of advocacy? One example that I can think of is a small organisation whose Board of Management is made up by each resident and their voluntary advocates. The advocates have long-term relationships with these people, and on the Board of the organisation represent both themselves and the resident. Does anybody else know of initiatives that enable advocacy for people with PIMD?
There are few resources around on non-instructed advocacy that I have been able to find. One resource is Lawton, A. (2006). A voice of their own: A toolbox of ideas and information for non-instructed advocacy. Kidderminster: BILD. I claim no expertise in advocacy and would love to know more, particularly if this may be an avenue for improving the lives of people with PIMD.
In the UK, becoming increasingly popular is the concept of "non-instructed advocacy". The Oxfordshire Advocacy Development Group state that "Non-instructed advocacy is a form of advocacy that sets out to support those people who are not able to instruct an advocate or to say what they want for reasons of communication difficulties, lack of comprehension, severe learning disability or dementia" http://www.oadg.org.uk/noninstructed.asp. Rather than a person saying what they want, non-instructed advocacy relies on observation and knowing the person rather than being told. This presents a challenge to common forms of advocacy. It requires really getting to know a person over time, and then knowing how to represent the person without bringing in your own views or agenda, without clear confirmation from the person being represented.
Non-instructed advocacy is not simple, and controversy is attached to it. Lawton (2006) states that "some people argue that this cannot be true advocacy as the person has not asked for this support and this might be one reason for people with high support needs missing out" (p.14). People with PIMD are missing out on advocacy. The voice a person saying "I want to make a complaint" is listened to much more readily than somebody who's body language is saying "I am not happy with this". Are people with PIMD not to be listened to because they don't have a voice?
What is happening around Australia for people with PIMD in the area of advocacy? One example that I can think of is a small organisation whose Board of Management is made up by each resident and their voluntary advocates. The advocates have long-term relationships with these people, and on the Board of the organisation represent both themselves and the resident. Does anybody else know of initiatives that enable advocacy for people with PIMD?
There are few resources around on non-instructed advocacy that I have been able to find. One resource is Lawton, A. (2006). A voice of their own: A toolbox of ideas and information for non-instructed advocacy. Kidderminster: BILD. I claim no expertise in advocacy and would love to know more, particularly if this may be an avenue for improving the lives of people with PIMD.
Sunday, July 6, 2008
Say N/A to N/A (except in menstrual management for men!)
One of the first changes that I set about in one of my workplaces was to get rid of N/A (not assessable) from profiles on people with PIMD. Often I would see reports strewn with “vision: N/A”, “hearing: N/A”, “cognition: N/A”, and “communication: N/A” or worse “communication: nonverbal” (problems with the term nonverbal will be explored another day). All of these areas are assessable and provision of quality services necessitate an understanding of the areas. How can a service say that they are working on providing a service to enhance a person’s quality of life if they do not know answers to these fundamental questions that shape the way a person experiences the world around them?
“Professional” assessment can be very useful for answering these questions but it is not an essential starting point. Not having a professional assessment is not a reasonable excuse for not having basic knowledge about a person. Take vision for example. Anybody can do a very basic vision assessment – we do them every time we meet a person. Does the person make eye contact with you when you are standing two metres away, or only when your face is 30 cm from their’s? Does the person’s eyes follow objects in space, and do they use their eyes to locate objects before grabbing them? Do they recognise photos? In some cases the results may be “the person does not make eye contact or look at objects and further information is needed to know if they can distinguish between light and dark”. “Blind” is also not a sufficient descriptor as the majority of people labelled as blind do have some vision and our responsibility is then to know how to use the vision that they have. Similar everyday functional observations can be made for hearing, cognition, and communication (people very rarely have no hearing, no cognition, and no communication). It is our responsibility to understand the people that we propose to support. It is our responsibility to ensure that people can use the skills they have, however limited the skills may be.
The only acceptable area for N/A is in menstrual management for men!
“Professional” assessment can be very useful for answering these questions but it is not an essential starting point. Not having a professional assessment is not a reasonable excuse for not having basic knowledge about a person. Take vision for example. Anybody can do a very basic vision assessment – we do them every time we meet a person. Does the person make eye contact with you when you are standing two metres away, or only when your face is 30 cm from their’s? Does the person’s eyes follow objects in space, and do they use their eyes to locate objects before grabbing them? Do they recognise photos? In some cases the results may be “the person does not make eye contact or look at objects and further information is needed to know if they can distinguish between light and dark”. “Blind” is also not a sufficient descriptor as the majority of people labelled as blind do have some vision and our responsibility is then to know how to use the vision that they have. Similar everyday functional observations can be made for hearing, cognition, and communication (people very rarely have no hearing, no cognition, and no communication). It is our responsibility to understand the people that we propose to support. It is our responsibility to ensure that people can use the skills they have, however limited the skills may be.
The only acceptable area for N/A is in menstrual management for men!
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